So You’re Stuck? You Know … There is a Way Out
October 19, 2018

How happy are you with where you are in life?

Do you have a job that makes you feel fulfilled? Are you on a path that feels right? Are you living each day freely?

If the answers to these questions for you is a resounding “No”, then it’s time to pause, reevaluate and make some serious changes to your situation. If you’re not happy now, then what makes you think you’re going to be happy tomorrow or the day after tomorrow? I’m sorry to tell you my friend, you’re caught up in an endless cycle.


You’re like Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog’s Day where he wakes up each morning living the same day all over again. Every time Murray’s alarm goes off he hopes he’s escaped but he continually finds himself trapped. It’s not until Murray regains hope and decides to better himself that the endless Groundhog’s Day loop is finally broken and he can live happily.

You too have the power to end the repetitive, disappointing loop that has become your life. You don’t have to live each day like it’s Groundhog’s Day.


Instead, you can break free. You can get “unstuck” from your situation. And the best part? You don’t have to wait for someone else’s permission to do it. You can make the decision all on your own.

Change starts with you.

If you’re ready, you can start now. Below, I’ve provided a series of questions that you can ask yourself in order to make the first step towards change. 


Seven Questions To Help You Get “Unstuck”

Here is a series of questions you need to ask yourself in order to escape the endless loop that has been consuming your life. Take out your journal or a piece of paper and work through these one by one. Be specific and don’t hold anything back. The power in this exercise relies on your ability to dream and to be honest with yourself.


1. What is one aspect of your life that needs to change?

Think about your life right now and what specific part of it you need to change. There may be many things that pop up here. I recommend jotting them all down in a list and then circling the one that jumps out to you as being most important. Circle that one and move forward.


2. What value does making this change have for you?

If you’re able to make this change in your life, what will that mean for you? Can you quantify it? The key to this step is making sure you picture the weight of this change. If the shift in your life is a huge one then you’ve chosen a great part of your life to work on.


3. What are your choices?

Lay out all the options that you see for making this change. What is the riskiest choice? The safest? What are all the options that lie in between? Then narrow down to 2-3 choices that you can see the paths clearly.


4. If you knew you couldn’t fail, which choice would you make?

Pretend for a moment that failure is not possible no matter which choice you make. Which one would you choose? Don’t hesitate. Pick it and circle it.


5. Even if you did fail, what’s the worst that could happen?

Now examine the choice you’ve circled. Ask yourself what the worst case scenario would be. Is it really that bad or would you still find a way to land on your feet? Perhaps you end up right back where you started? Think about this carefully and be honest with yourself.


6. What is the first step you could take to put this choice into action?

Take the choice you circled and break down what you need to do to make it happen. What is the absolute next thing you need to do if you’re going to make this choice a reality? Write it down now.


7. When are you going to take this step?

Write down the exact day that you can take this step. This should be over the next week. Then pick the time of day and block it off on your calendar. Commit yourself to it.

After you’ve completed the seven questions there is one more crucial step. Ask yourself who in your life is going to have your back when you make this decision. Who can hold you accountable to the first step and the many afterward? Do you have a friend who has your best interest at heart? Is there a mentor? Perhaps a coach?


If you’re going to make real change in your life and escape the “Groundhog Day” effect then you’re going to need support. We all need support when things get difficult. And things inevitably get difficult. Find your accountability partner now and make sure they’re in it with you for the long run.

If you’re interested in a coach, then drop me a message. You know where to find me.



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