Why I’m Done with “Self” Help
May 19, 2017

Sometimes I question my own motives.  I often wonder if the way I’m living is the right way.

Over the last few years I’ve been reaching higher and higher.  I reach for the next level in my career.  I plan a trip to a new continent.  I launch a blog.

It’s always more, more, more. 

And with each advance I want to feel that I’m one step closer to the life I want.  The ideal life.  

It’s what I talk about on this blog.  You’ll see a blurb about it at the bottom of this post. 

Personal development.  Self help.

But I’ve been thinking recently that I may have it wrong – that my thoughts may be misguided. 

I’ve realized that fundamentally nothing changes at each level.  I am still the same person and I still face problems.

My insecurities and challenges never go away.  They’re still with me when I go to sleep and they’re still with me when I wake up. 

So now I sit here and I wonder why this is.  If this is not the way then what is?  If I am wrong, then why?

I have an idea.  I’m not sure if I’m right but I have an idea.

I think now that my problems are a direct result of this insatiable hunger.  I think this perpetual craving for more is what has created this suffering.

The more I see in this world the more I want.

I want to travel to Prague. I want to start a company.  I want to live in New York City.

All along my focus has been to accelerate my own growth and create a better life for myself.  And while I have in many ways, I haven’t solved my problems.  I haven’t found sustainable happiness. 

I believe this is because I’m always focused on ME.

I talk about PERSONAL development.

I talk about SELF help. 

It’s this excessive focus on self that has allowed my insecurities to linger and my problems to persist.

So now I wonder, how can I fix it?  How can I change my approach?

I have to believe that if focusing inwardly is the root of my problem, then looking outward will be the solution. 

What if I stop dwelling on my own development and start focusing solely on the development of others?  What if I fight my own ego by spending my time bettering the world around me instead of myself?

I think there’s something to this. 

With this approach I can simultaneously help those around me while relieving my own suffering.

I want to dedicate my life to other people.

I want to serve this world.

I want to make YOU my new focus. 

I think this is what I’ll do.

I write this post so you can see my thoughts and my mistakes.  I am still paving my own path.

I don’t have all the answers. I’m still searching.

But I hope that my questions can help you with your own situation, you’re own challenges. 

And I hope that my own introspection will encourage you to do the same. 

How can you live a happier life?  How can you relieve your suffering?

I believe we can get there together.

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